Another example is meditating. I meditate every day for a minimum of 10 minutes. Some days I'll do 20. Some days I will do a full hour, but I've got a minimum of 10 minutes. And this streak has probably been alive again for at least two years now. So at least for 700 consecutive days, I have meditated. Whether it be Christmas Day, my birthday, whether have been in a foreign country or not. When I've had no time I found a way somehow to have a minimum of 10 minutes of meditation. So when I wake up tomorrow no matter what happens in the world, no matter if the shit hits the fan or not, do you think that I'm not gonna meditate? It does not matter what happens, I will find a way to meditate tomorrow.
How do I know this? Because I have 700 consecutive days where I've done this. When I was single, I think I went out consecutively for about 1,500 days talking to people, women I found attractive for 1,500 days. An innocent conversation every single day to wire into my head that the world is not such a big, scary, lonely place, that you can talk to people, that you didn't have to hide behind a screen and swipe right or left or Tinder, or go to a nightclub and get hammered and wait to the end of the night to see who liked me.
I wanted to have the ability to go out, to speak to people, to have real connections with people in the daytime, in the light to be able to do this. And it was a thing that scared me most in the world, so I did it, 1,500 or there abouts consecutive days of doing this and that was a big, big fear for me. And that was one of the things that started off at the streak for me. If I can do this thing that scares the hell out of me, but I could do it every day, then if I need to do that tomorrow, do you think is gonna be a problem for me? No, because I have 1,500 consecutive days, streaks, marks on my chart that I've done this. So tomorrow the idea of not doing it, the idea of not doing this is terrible, it's terrible for me. It's unacceptable. I have a sheet. I have to mark that sheet to keep the streak alive.
People want rapid change and yes, change can sometimes be rapid and that's an amazing thing. I've seen it, I've seen it each and every day that I work on my clients. But sometimes as well, it's about establishing a new behavior. Because there's two types of change. There's state change, i.e., you're feeling not so good right now, you want to feel better. You could do stuff immediately to make you feel better. Whether it be dance, exercise, talk to a stranger, talk to a friend. In that moment your state will change, but you can go back into that habitual state later on where you weren't feeling so good, and you can keep interrupting it to do something else. It can get a little bit exhausting sometimes.
Or you can say, "You know what? What behaviors, what habits do I need to insert into my life to make it an inevitability that this new behavior, this new way of being, this new normal is habitual?" And that's what the streaks all about, it's about habitually doing behaviors each and every single day so it becomes your new normal, so you swap out the old behavior and you now do this. Because if you take something away in life, you have to put something in its place, otherwise it's like taking out a weed. If you're taking out a weed in your garden, if you don't replace it with a new seed, a new flower something else will grow. Then the likelihood of that old behavior, that old weeds of coming back is a very, very high indeed.
So you wanna to take that behavior away. I have a smoker that comes in and we take away that smoking habit. As silly, as destructive as it may be to the person's conscious mind, they know all the reasons why they shouldn't smoke. Yet, because they've been doing it so long, if you take away the behavior, pure willpower they might go a couple of days, couple of weeks, a couple of months, couple of years even, without doing that behavior. But after a while in time most people, if they don't put a new behavior in its place will revert back to that old way of being, because they've done it so many times in their life.
That when you swap it out for a new behavior, that you do in its place with your same values, your same positive emotional triggers are met, then there's no need to do the old destructive behavior. And behind every behavior you're doing, even if it is negative and you can't consciously see it, there's always some kind of positivity behind it for your unconscious mind, otherwise it simply wouldn't do it, because your unconscious mind has the intellect of about a five-year-old, and it only does things that are right for you. But we know the five-year-old is in control, the five-year-old is probably going to eat too much chocolate cake. Is gonna probably run around too much like a lunatic, might even run in a road or do things that they don't know that are quite dangerous to them. But with the foresight to have hindsight as an adult, you perhaps wouldn't do those same behaviors.
So that's the power of this streak. It's about developing their internal discipline inside your mind. That you realize it's going to be uncomfortable to begin with to do these new behaviors, but with each day that passes by, you build up that new neurological pathway in your brain, where this becomes your new normal. The streak, the new positive behavior, becomes your new normal, it becomes your new default, until eventually that old neurological pathway of doing that potentially destructive behavior is, i.e., eating too much, smoking too much, traumatizing yourself in some shape or form, procrastinate. That road, that neurological pathway, gets shut off and you can't travel down it anymore. And that's when that new change, that new behavior becomes wired in.
And it's a way to win every day, it's a way to win, having a streak every single day. So when I get to mark off at the end of the day the habitual behaviors that I've done, the streaks that are continuing, it makes me makes me feel good, it makes me feel that I achieved something in my mind. I start these habitual new behaviors in my mind, these new neurological pathways in order to make an inevitability that I get what I want, what I desire inside my life.
And yeah, there may be some teething problems initially. You may kick and scream and not wanna do it because she may have had literally thousands of consecutive days of doing the old behavior, so it might take a while to destroy that old behavior. It might feel a little foreign to do the new behavior, to develop the streak. But the interesting thing about a streak is you can do it consciously. You can say, "You know what? I'm gonna have a streak of 30 days where I'm gonna eat clean, where I'm gonna meditate, where I'm gonna exercise, yada, yada, yada."
But sometimes in my own life, the best streaks are things that happen organically. Like the Undertaker's streak, it happened organically. It wasn't written into the script until, as I mentioned, one day one of the writers or producers noticed, "Hey, this guy hasn't lost for six or seven Wrestlemanias. Maybe there's something here that we can turn into something." And oftentimes my streaks, the best ones, have been the things that have just habitually started to change, and after a few days, a few weeks, few months, I'm like, "Hold on. I'm doing this new thing now and I've actually, oh, I've been doing this new behavior for a while now instead of the old behavior, and it's actually been about 30 days, 60 days, 90 days. Actually feels good and I've got this win these streaks, these marks each day for the last 90 days. This feels really, really good. Actually, I can do this. I like the idea of winning. I like the idea of marking down on this chart every day that I'm winning here. It makes me feel good, it makes me achieve one of my six human needs that I am growing in my life."
We know life you either growing or you're dying. It's impossible to just stand still. If indeed you do stand still in a spot you are dying, because your body is growing older, your cells are growing older. No matter what you do, you are getting older. So you always live and you always die, you either getting better or you get worse. You cannot stay exactly the same. The mere fact of being stuck means that you are stuck and you're getting worse. Because every day that you stay stuck it becomes harder for you to get out of that ditch. Hence the title of this show, Unstuck.
So to summarize streaks. Set up streaks in your life don't look for that clarification like that. Look to develop streaks in your life where you get to feel like a winner every day. Don't wait till January, do it now. There was no faster time to start to make that change them right now in this very moment.
Start up streaks, or perhaps look back at your life over the last couple of months, and realize there's some perhaps organic streaks that have happened all by themselves. And you're like, "Wow, I didn't realize that but I get to celebrate those streaks have happened organically." And perhaps just look, maybe print out a sheet of paper, stick it on your wall or have a spreadsheet, or something on your phone where every day you get to start to add up those days, those days that you've been winning so you get to feel like a winner. You feel that you're moving forward so you develop that new behavior that makes it inevitable that you'll have the things you want, need and desire in your life.
Thank you so very much this has been the show, the first show of the new year. I hope you've enjoyed it and as always please leave your reviews, 5-star reviews on iTunes or whatever format you're listening to, and leave a couple of sentences and then please do email me at mail, M-A-I-L @lukenosis, L-U-K-E N-O-S-I-S.com and let me know, and arrange your 30 minute power session Skype with me where we could talk about areas of your life, eight areas specifically, that you want some help to come unstuck with.
And I wanna finish today's show with something that I call The Warriors Prayer. We face a dire challenge and chance. Our lives, our way of life, it hangs in the balance. A fragile glass standing on a high wire above the FS asbestos [SP]. And as we pray for not one drop of rain under an overcast sky, and yet I smile. We will fight and we will bleed and yet I smile. We shall face men. Some cornered into their role by circumstances. Some desperate murderers filled by blood. We shall end them all as is our change this day, as is our sorrow and yet I smile. We will leave our loved ones to travel a dangerous road. Rushing out of peace in the war and yet I smile. For we will mine glory from the wrath of struggle this day. We will honor and protect this bastion of life in a land of the dead, and we will win. You trust the king, we will win and I smile and I laugh and I rejoice this day. For this day we are joined in purpose and vision. We are of a singular heart and mind. On this day we are one, we are one. We are one. We are one. We are one.